Intentionally Sensual Soup for the Soul.

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I have to start this blog off by saying how fun shooting in this particular look was, for me. There’s nothing like a plunge neckline and a healthy dose of black to make me feel like one badass babe. The Luxe collection is full of special dresses that can empower any woman.

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Now, whether or not I’m actually “badass” is up for debate. I probably stir up far less trouble than that word suggests. However, I definitely still find ways to take my day from mundane to “man, I’m glad I was awake for this” and what I’ve found makes that difference is glamour. Now, this doesn’t necessarily mean flashing lights, good access to life-threatening drugs or any sort of celebrity style glamour . . . What I mean by “glamour” is whatever it is that you do to appreciate yourself, to decorate your day to day, a glamour that’s specific to who you are as a soul.

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For me, this often means compelling lipstick and an evening out on the town or sipping wine with a good read in hand. However, it could also mean eating carrot cake in a foamy tub while swimming in unapologetically sad jazz. Sometimes, glamour means licking the tips of my fingers clean after eating my favourite pizza in bed . . . Or being naked in a creek somewhere. In fact, moments like these usually require little more than an appetite for feeling and are easy to achieve. All that’s really required is that I take the time. In our conceptions of people we consider to be glamorous, I think the concept of excess is usually a key determinant. However, what’s maybe at the heart of glamour is actually excess feeling and the capability, as Rox pointed out in her last blog, to choose to slow down – not to slow down permanently, but to allow yourself time in a day to really sensually engage in an experience that you enjoy.

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Sensual, intentional moments of indulgence – this is what makes me feel glamorous.

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While the accessories and carrot cakes and pizzas or whatever do play a part, what rewards my soul most is taking hold my creative agency to curate a moment that I can fully engage in. Shooting in this look, the sensuality, the thrill-seeker and the woman in me felt both acknowledged and celebrated.

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For me, this is the difference between “treating yourself” in a way that’s often used to enable excess and between allowing our souls the time to feel acknowledged and rewarded. Even if it’s as simple as putting on something that makes you feel vibrant or listening to an album or two in full, eyes closed, allowing yourself to be glamorous through moments of decoration unique to your own existence is life-giving.

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There are few sights more beautiful, glamorous or more compelling than people actively loving themselves before our eyes.

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On pursuing yourself.

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As I’m sure any of you can relate to, I find that no matter how many times I free up my inhibitions to have my photo taken in public, I’m always still a little bit intimidated at the number of people who will stop to peek at the girl making funny poses, or so I presume. While this doesn’t sound like a very big deal (and really, it isn’t), it does make me wonder about the way we react, in general, to being observed vs. the way other people observe us. .

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I’m sure we’ve all been there – at a show or concert watching some cutie on stage, completely in his or her element, charismatically doling out chords. In instances like this, I’ll often find myself mesmerized by the experience of watching strangers exercise their passions – an intimate experience rarely had with someone I don’t know personally.

In fact, I’ve found that whenever I’m most in my element – most myself – is when I’ve felt the most appreciated.

 

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I’ve found that if I try to keep this in mind, it helps me to relax into a sort of exchange with the people who stop to watch the action. I feel as though most of what we perceive, in life, to be potential judgements on us are actually just mere curiosities. I really do think there’s something to the statement “we’re our own worst critic”. And I guess that’s one of the nicer aspects of getting older – allowing personal insecurities to meld and transform into strengths to be indulged in, by both ourselves and others.

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And, as always, this can be applied to what we wear. I feel so fortunate to live in an age and on a continent where freedom of expression is possible, where women can choose to adorn ourselves in a way that speaks to our souls. Stepping out of our comfort zones and into looks or behaviours that make us feel at home in ourselves, instead of clothed in insecurities, can be just as intimidating as the judgment we fear, but is So worth the risk.

While people often begin their new resolutions in January, I don’t think there’s ever a wrong time to learn to gently pursue ourselves.

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xo

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